Selfish Isn’t A Dirty Word

Sometimes I feel like I’m chugging away like a steam train, going at a hundred miles an hour. That focused on my destination that I forget, or don’t have the time, to look out of the windows. And when I do remember and try to take a peek, I’m going that fast that what I do see is blurred or fleeting.

It’s scarily easy to get caught up in the day to day treadmill. Jumping through hoops, trying to keep everyone happy and everything going. Sometimes you just have to be a little selfish. Being selfish isn’t always the bad thing that everyone assumes it to be. Sometimes it’s necessary for self preservation. Realising that your own needs and desires are just as valid and important as everyone else’s too. What is wrong with making yourself your number one priority every now and then?

To be at your best and to even be capable of being there for those you care about, you need to take care of yourself first. Slow down and enjoy what’s right in front of you. Cherish the small things in the here and now. Love and give happiness when you’re able and allow time for yourself to be loved too. Especially by yourself.

Those around you who truly care for you and value you as a person will often be crying out for you to be a little more ‘selfish’. They are the ones who want the best for you above everyone and everything else. Watching their loved one spread themselves too thin or do too much at the neglect of themselves, can be heartbreaking. They are powerless to do anything about it- only you can put the breaks on and pull it back. By doing that act for yourself, you are actually helping your nearest and dearest too  You are relieving their worry and concern for you.

Those who are closest to us are those who are most affected by our hectic lives. My husband is the one person in the whole wide world that I love more than anything. He is my number one, my world, my life. He is also the most understanding and considerate to me on a personal level. He knows me better than I know myself. He understands when I’m busy or if we have a lot on our plate to deal with. He knows I can’t say no to people and I’ll always push to try and help whoever asks me… He gets it if we need to drop everything last minute for something, or if we need to put our own plans on hold. He suffers. Yet he’s the most important person in the world to me. He is the one person I actually want to be spending all of my time with. The balance can get out of whack.

Our loved ones deserve us at our best, yet quite often are the ones who get us at our worst- our most tired, rundown and usually only for a limited amount of time, before we crash and burn and have to go to bed. After a day at work and an evening of doing the general household jobs that need doing on a daily basis, checking messages, email and social media- they get a very tired, frazzled version on us 😦  They deserve better and YOU deserve better.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to make any major changes or stop being yourself in any way. It does just mean that you have to set yourself, and others, boundaries. Take time out for yourself, make time for what makes you happy. Give yourself time to rest properly, not everything has to be full-on, all of the time. Resting and down time is vital for you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

Take time out for you. Prioritise this. Every aspect of your life will benefit from it and you will flourish. Show yourself the same kindness and dedication you give to everything else.

With much love,

Miss Kimmy Cupcake xx