Who Am I And Where Did I Spring Up From?

Since I started my blog in June, I’ve been overwhelmed by the amount of love and support I’ve received from my family and friends- sharing my posts and liking my Facebook page. ‘Spreading the word’ 🙂 I’ve had some lovely inspirational messages from people and some fabulous comments posted by my friends, discussing my blog piece each week. It makes my heart happy, so thank you yet again 

I’ve also had quite a few people ask about my blog and ask why I decided to set it up. There is no real answer to be honest! Lots of little things just came together and I decided to go for it. I wanted to do something for me. Something I could do for myself and be proud of.

I suppose it began with me widening my circle of friends on Facebook- I’ve befriended people from all over the globe who like the’pin-up’ scene or love vintage or have businesses that are associated with the 1940’s and 1950’s. I love looking at my friends pin-up photographs, their dandy hairstyles, pretty dresses and bright, cheery posts. It’s nice to have friends who have the same interests and styles as myself, as not many people I meet on a day to day basis do- so Facebook is fantastic for this. I’ve learnt and picked up a lot of things and I’m made some firm friends. Friends that in all likelihood I’ll never get to meet in person, but who I do get to keep in touch with and chat to via social media.

These women all share similar passions, yet are their own person and bring their own special individuality to the table. They are all inspirational, wonderful humans for many reasons. Many run their own businesses- be that shops, make-up artists, photographers, models, writers, bloggers, burlesque performers, seamstresses…just amazing. I can honestly say my life is enriched for knowing them all. They share their lives, their talents and little stories, they give advice and build each other up. I like this a lot. This sharing of information, of life. Everyone talking about issues, problems, beliefs and adventures from their stand point and sharing. It opened my eyes.

A number of my friends used to tell me, ‘You should write a blog!’ liking my pictures and little pieces about my life I would post on social media. I would laugh it off, saying I didn’t have anything of any value to say. I thought you had to be a ‘serious writer’ or have certain connections to become  a blogger- I’m not quite sure what I thought really. I guess I thought it was complicated and even if I knew what I was doing, no one would be particularly interested in what I had to say. 

I must admit, being the technophobe and dinosaur that I am, I didn’t really know a lot about blogs. I know quite a few people who have their own blogs but I had no idea how they worked or what they entailed. I would ask in polite chit-chat and try to get myself a bit more educated on such things to express an interest in their lives and what they were doing, but it all still seemed rather foggy to me and I had no idea. I certainly didn’t think it would be anything I would be capable of.

When I was at school, I really enjoyed English lessons. I loved writing stories and poems and took great pride in my essays for my exams. I missed doing that. Being given that direction, a starting point and having to write. Time to write. When you get older and leave school, you don’t really make time for such things. There’s no reason to write about anything anymore. Same with drawing, I used to love sketching and used to be quite good at it- but I’ve lost it now, you get out of practice.

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In my adult life, like a lot of people, I’ve had a fair amount of difficult times to deal with. Many even my nearest and dearest have absolutely no clue about. I’m not ashamed to say I’ve struggled, but I have come out fighting each time. A few of my closest friends have had some real life-changing events going on that we have discussed and I’ve offered my advice on. I’ve taken all of that on board too.

During my darkest times, I’ve often found it very therapeutic to write my thoughts down. A bit like a diary, but formatted more like my scribblings of notes for an English essay. Pouring everything down on to paper and getting out of my system. It really helped. A lot of my blog posts you are reading now are based on these very same notes from over the years. Reworked with extra paragraphs put in here and there to bring them up to date, but the main body is the same.

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Friends who have come to me for help or advice have often echoed, ‘You should start your own blog’, saying people would be interested in my advice and perspective on things. And again, I would brush it off, saying no one would be interested or listen to me, only themselves and that’s because they are my friends, they love me and are biased ♥

So, with my friends regularly urging me on, putting myself out there and talking to a wider range of people on social media and being inspired by their up-beat, positive ‘go get life and make it happen’ attitudes, and with the urge growing inside to want to do something for myself, to contribute some how  and to do something I could be proud of. I decided to get a bit more curious about blogging.

I had remembered that a couple of my friends, way back when, had written a couple of articles and shared the links on their Facebook pages. You clicked the link and it took you through to their article. I thought this was a great idea- I could write up my pieces and post a link, rather than me writing lengthy Facebook posts about what I wanted to say. Unfortunately this was a bit of a dead end as they were approached by a third party to write about something specific, which this third party had then published. I then thought that maybe there would be bloggers out there who accepted ‘guest bloggers’ or something. I could write the odd piece and put it forward, see if anyone wanted to use them… I came to a bit of a dead end with that too. I couldn’t really find anyone who did that kind of thing.

I started to ask people with a knowledge on such things- how would I go about setting up my own blog? To be honest, I’ve had some mixed response with this- some were really open, honest and supportive and some were less so. Which is fine- I was just surprised. This journey has definitely helped me realise which friends and contemporaries want me to flourish, grow and succeed as a person. And to them, I am beyond grateful. 

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I was told about my different options and the different types of blogs that are out there- modelling, fashion, stories, life experiences, reviewers, hair tutorials, social media bloggers, creating your own website with WordPress or Bloglovin…. What did I intend on writing about? As that would have a bearing on which direction I took… My head was spinning. A friend sent me links to various articles about each type of blog and services available, outlining the pros and cons of each. After reading all of those, I thought my best bet would be to have my own website and pay for my domain name, then it was all mine and no one could take it away from me.

This was my something for me- something I could work on and take pride in. My platform for putting my articles out there on. I wanted to tell people what was on my mind and what my thoughts on certain subjects were. I suppose I wanted to carry on making friends and widening my circle. A blog seemed like the perfect outlet for all of this.

I’m not after free stuff and I don’t make any money out of my blog. I’m not interested in using people to get a higher profile. I just want to be nice and make friends with people. Boost people up or brighten their day. I am not and I’ve never claimed to be a ‘writer’. I’m not. I’ve not been to university or studied journalism or anything like that. I’m not pretending to be anything I’m not. 

I am, however, a 35 year old woman with plenty of life experience. Life experiences I think lots of other people can relate to. I’m not naive enough to think I’m going to be writing anything earth-shattering or cover a subject that no one has ever come across before- of course not! Everything I talk about has been covered a hundred times before by hundreds of different people, but this is my perspective on it. It’s something I can relate to and know about and I think lots of other people will too. I’ve never said I’m passionate about writing, but I am passionate about life and my family and friends. I write to help myself, to share my adventures and things I enjoy, but I also hope someone out there reading them finds them of interest or of some use too. That is what I’m going for 

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To anyone out there thinking of setting up a blog of your own- my advice is to do it! You never know what you are capable of until you try. Whether it’s for personal reasons and more like a hobby- like myself, or if you are a serious writer and want to start putting your own articles out there, or if you’re really good at doing hair styles and decide to film yourself giving hair and make up hints and tips- there’s enough room and love out there for everybody. Even if each blogger only gets through to just one person with just one of their blogs, surely that makes it worthwhile…? No..? I would be honored if that were the case for myself. We should be inspiring each other, boosting each other and encouraging each other. Everyone’s point of view, opinion and thoughts are just as valid as the next person’s. 

Everyone has a story to tell, give yourself chance to tell it 

With much love,

Miss Kimmy Cupcake xx